“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.”
Robert Fritz
There is a well-known saying that there is a right person for everyone in this world. We all need love and there is no doubt that for every person there is another one, designed and born to be your soul mate and second half. But how do we choose the right person among 6 billion people?
Have you ever entered a shop where you were almost blinded with the variety choices? I bet you left the store without buying anything or with something that turned out to be not what you wanted when you returned home. When you date beautiful
Ukrainian women, you see hundreds of photos of gorgeous women, and it is easy to get confused and distracted. You do not want to limit your choices on one hand; on the other hand you do not want to go back to your single life empty-handed.
Even when you have your preferences strict in your mind and if you restrict your communication to specific age, weight, height, etc. groups, you might end up with several ladies you really like. Don’t you feel a little bit uncomfortable opening yourself to several ladies and maybe giving them some hope too? Or do you think that dating multiple people is not sincere, dishonest and wrong thing to do? How much is too much?
Obviously everybody has to decide for himself, but I will share my experience with you and tell you what we tell our ladies: to make the right decision, it is helpful to have the ability to choose and dating several people in the earlier stages of dating has substantial benefits for you:
1. You broaden your communication group
Whether you will build a serious relationship or you get a feeling that you are not interested in this person as a potential partner after exchanging few messages, this experience will become valuable if you get to know more people and remain friends with them. It will give you insight into the Ukrainian culture of dating and prepares you for meeting your Right Lady. You will notice the differences in our outlook and might even discuss some matters with the other ladies.
2 You use the power of comparison
You are being overwhelmed by the quantity of beautiful ladies on the website with studio photos and videos (it is our job to present the ladies at their best). You are receiving many smiles, e-cards and messages from the ladies (again it is our job to help them browse through the profiles and select good matches). And very quickly after reading their messages you would get a better feeling of the ladies, their values and outlooks. Remember that not everybody can express himself or herself well in correspondence, especially when often the girls dictate letters over the phone. But still you could compare the messages to eliminate shallow and non-personable ones and pay more attention to thoughtful and timely replies. Even negative experiences will serve you well, as you would appreciate more those ladies who mean well. Western men tend to be polite even at quitting a relationship if it is obviously not working. So use the power of comparison to eliminate wrong matches sooner rather than later.
3. You develop an image of your Ideal Soul Mate
In theory each one of us has an ideal image of his second half in mind but when it comes to real life corrections come very quickly. Scientists say that if you remain single for a long time, your sub consciousness slightly changes your ideal image, so you can find the love of your life faster.
While dating different people you can realize what you really need from love and relationship, what is essential for you in a relationship, and which of your requirements could be broadened up. Then you can choose someone who would become a better match for you.
4. You gain dating experience
Dating does require a lot of emotions and can be nerve wracking. But with every new relationship you lose your nervousness and concentrate more and more on the relationship itself. You become more confident about what you talk about, about what questions are important to ask upfront, you become assertive about what features in your partner are essential for you.
Think of dating as a house hunting or job search. The more showings you visit, the better idea you get of what you really want. The more interviews you attend, the more confident you become of how to sell your skills and how to get what you really want.
5. It makes your search and chance to meet the Right person faster
If you do not date anyone, how can you meet with your destiny? If you date only one person, how can you be sure she is the one for you? Men who tend to date one and only lady often have to go through several exclusive relationships till they find the Right one. Think of the time wasted!
6. We are selectors, and we are selectees.
You are choosing the ladies, but keep in mind that the ladies might have a good selection too. Would you be a good match for her too? You do not just choose yourself, but you also get chosen. Give your lady a chance to choose you!
We used to have a service of personal matchmaking when a gentleman was introduced to 10 ladies via emails and then selected 3 of them to have a Live Chat and then came to visit only the best matches. One of the gentlemen met all 10 ladies in person only to end up with the totally different lady who was not in his initial choice. When I asked him whether it was worth of going through personal matchmaking, he replied, that it was a good decision and he gained precious experience from it. So that when the opportunity presented itself and he met the 11th lady, he was ready to make the right decision.
As you can see you could really benefit from dating several women, it can be even fun! Keep an image of your ideal soul mate in your head, socialize with the ladies and gradually filter them to leave the One and Only.
Interpreted Live Video Chats will help you a lot to filter only the best matches during communication long-distance. This way by the time you are ready to come to Ukraine, you would have only one or a few ladies to meet. Open your heart and mind and let them choose. And the feeling that you are on the right way to the right person will come sooner than you think. Listen to your heart - it will tell you when you need to stop!
From all of us at Unona, we wish you the very best of luck and success in your search!